Stupid Husbands...!!!@##@@!

Okay, I need to get this off my chest. I save, I pinch pennies, I try to get the best grocery deals I can, I do without anything new and why do I do these things? I would like to be doing it to get my family ahead financially, but apparantly I do it so the rest of my family can have any f-ing thing they want!!! All I want is to save enough money to save our house if Chris lost his job. Two months of expenses, is that too much to ask? I guess so, because, since we maxed out the credit cards around christmas time, I thought to my self(stupidly) that since it can't get any worse than maxed out, now would be a good time to just pay the minimum for awhile and build up an emergency fund. Again, stupid me....I have lost time at work, so I will get a few short checks, there was $500 of maintenence to Chris' car and now a $150 for some stupid workout shit Chris bought off the TV!!! How did he do that with no credit card?????? He used the card he saves for work, so great, I just paid over $1,000 of "our" charges on that card and he just keeps going. So one card is maxed, just move on to the other one???? None of normal stuff is making me mad, I expect to have to pay for car maintenance, and lost time at work, but it is this stupid "stuff". He just can't do without more and more stuff....I am at a loss about what I can do about it anymore. Our finances are intertwined. I would have a hard time separating our finances now....anytime we "talk" about money, we just fight. He thinks I worry too much and I think he is short sighted and irresponcible. We have two kids to raise and a roof to keep over their heads, we would lose it with one lost paycheck. We don't even have one paycheck in the bank. I want a solid financial future and I am not going to get it with him.....I just don't see how it can happen, until he changes his attiudes twards planning for the future. God, I love him, but at what cost? Not being able to retire? Having a 401K is not enough, a few stocks is not enough, WE NEED AN EMERGENCY FUND!!! WHAT THE FUCK AM I SUPPOSED TO DO? I AM LOST........and sad, because I feel that there is no answer.